“I’m going to do it later. I’m actually going to be productive tonight. I don’t care what people think about me.” I don’t know about you, but ever since I’ve been in high school those are the lies I continually tell myself. Growing up, I haven’t quite mastered the concept of priorities, or what my priorities should be. Out of all those lies, “I don’t care what others think about me” is the one that I continually tell myself.
It can be quite confusing growing up and wondering whether you should care what people think or not. We’re told, “Stick and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” That’s a lie, words suck and they do hurt. Then we’re also told that we need to always think about what someone might think about our first impression and first impressions always matter. We should care about our appearance and keep up with ourselves, because we never know when an opportunity may present itself. So what do we do? Do we care, or not?
Telling myself I don’t care about what people think always has helped me. The more I say it, the more I believe it, I guess. But I’ve always done my best to try and not give anyone a reason to say my name, but it still happens. I’m beginning to start my senior year and I still don’t know the answer to that question, I don’t think that there is a perfect answer to that. I’ve finally just come to peace with the fact that people are going to talk, it’s human nature. I’m guilty of talking about other people too; gossip really does take over sometimes when you’re a teenager. It’s taken me three years of high school to finally realize that there’s nothing you can do to stop people from talking, let them talk. I came to the not so shocking realization this year that, drama, gossip, and everything sucky about high school really has NO important effect or impact on you later in life. It’s just silly little rumors. Let people say what they want, because when you graduate you will not see majority of those people and what people said about you or teased you about most likely will not follow you. Eventually, everyone will grow up too.
People hate my blog and they make fun of it, and in the beginning it really put a bummer on this whole thing. I love doing this, and I have found it way more fun for me than I ever imagined. This blog was originally intended for my family to keep up with me. But I have begun to love this and having an outlet for myself, and I actually enjoy writing. And to see and hear people talk about it and make fun of it really sucked the joy out of it for me and I really became self-conscious about what I was writing. But, I’ve talked about being confident and learning to be different. This is different and I love it. I finally practiced what I preached and I do care what people think about the things I do, and I know they hate it. But then again, that’s there opinion and it’s honestly extremely irrelevant to me. It’s someone’s choice to care about the things you do and really go out of there way to kill the fun for you. That takes a lot of effort, so my final answer to this question that I have continued to ask myself is:
I care what people think. I always have and I always think that I will. It’s impossible for me to ignore the things they say, but it’s so extremely easy to ignore those people. Being confident in your life decisions will help you understand that their life and their opinions are so irrelevant and they really have nothing more exciting to be doing with their life than talk about you. So knowing that has started to make me feel better. If you really put that much effort into putting someone down, maybe you should be evaluating your own life choices. The most important thing is to be confident and have fun. Don’t stop doing the things you love. The truth of the matter is, more people love you and enjoy the things you say and do, than don’t. So if you take one thing away from this tonight, take that away. The amount of people that love you and care about you will surpass anyone that wants to put you down.
So a big thanks to the people who inspired this post tonight, it’s one of my favorites. Thank you!